My first Sanyasi trip…

My first Sanyasi trip…

Sorry, the title might be a misguiding one… Just it was sort of that for me….

Trip to Tirupathi… On the month of Puratasi, mid of Brahmotsav festivity…..

To experience Garuda Seva (8^th day of the event)….

And one more disclaimer I should make…. Please don’t expect spiritual content… I am not so spiritual person….

To begin, It was a sudden trip planned along with my neighbor-cum-friends…

            

            Why I call it a Sanyasi trip… we started in a Khavi Dhoti clad with no spare dress or any essential items, especially we didn’t carry mobile phone with us….  So big thing was without chatting/ contact with friends & loved one for almost 40 hours … ha ha yennaku big thing thaan… sari sari… It was actually to avoid unnecessary waiting at the cloak room….

So, we started by 3 o’clock Saptagiri Express from Tiruvallur (Scheduled time is 2:45pm, for information)

At this festival season, obviously train was over flowing… Actually we were ready to manage anything… reached our destination by 6pm… took a bus to reach Thiruchanoor (Popularly known as Almelu Mangapuram)… making a visit to Sri Padmavathi Ammavari temple... Tradition dictates that pilgrimage to Tirupathi is incomplete without the visit to this temple. Alamelu Manga (Goddess Lakshmi),who is the main deity of the temple. Most pilgrims start their journey uphill only after visiting this temple…  then in the mid-way before starting our Nadaipathai (yathra to Tirumala) had our dinner at an average hotel (Sri Balaji Woodlands.. ha ha name supreme classah irrukkum)… Then had a visit to Govidaraja Perumal Temple which is located at the foothills of Tirupathi, walk-able distance from the Railway station. The temple look, structure, design, arrangement of deity were quite replica of the Sri Veeraghavaperuman temple in Tiruvallur..

Now starts our journey up-hill at 10pm from Alipiri mettu ( 4km from Tirupathi bus stop, even we covered this distance on foot)… with a pack full of groundnuts… so its 3550 footsteps (approx. 9kms)… for better management of crowd at Tirumala, bio-metric token facility usually provided for footpath pilgrims at Srivari mettu (Kali Gopuram – it’s almost mid-point to Tirumala) has be temporarily cancelled….  Now we don’t have the benefit of Dhivya Dharshan option (Special queue for those with this token… which take lesser time than the Sarva Dharshan… Common queue and most featured thing is, the bearer of Token can get extra-laddu at low cost)…. So still we continued…. Not only this, in forecast of lakhs of people on Garuda seva day… TTD had cancelled all this facilities including all paid/special darshan facility…. Only VIP facility was left untouched…

So leaving all this apart, What I believe is, in enjoying the path to the Temple/ Swamy dharshan… which could be like feeling the beauty of the nature or testing your abilities patience, stamina, endurance, spirit, consciousness… even It evoke a positive thoughts/ideas… means to spiritual quest…

First person to encounter at the Tirumala Devasthanam was a man of negativity… full of bad vibes… we were about to join the kilometers long queue to Sarva Darshan (free darshan), he would be a man from hell, uttering words inviting evil incidents to happen…. it seems the person was recently in to other religious believes or simply could be making poor comparative analysis on religious believes … that was not so bad thing… but commenting stupid on the believes of the billion without any proper understanding is questionable… he was critical about the TTD management… making bad comments on all those arrangement, sudden cancellation of special pathways (for info, it was well intimated on website & dedicated TTD channel… it is easy to find flaws in the system, but working with its wear & tear is daunting task… Don’t want to fill his bad vibes in this write-up… so concluding his part….

Then we were in dilemma, if we are into the Sarva Darshan queue. We would end up in the Waiting hall (Popularly known as Godown) so obviously would miss all the special events outside… we were roaming around the streets of Tirumala, with this confusion. Taking views and experience from different people on the street, tea shop, dormitory, cloak room…some on Temporary out-pass from the godown, some exit from the queue in the frustration of waiting; few are those completed darshan after 12 hours of waiting…. So it clarifies, taking a glimpse at Lord Balaji at Tirupathi Garbagraha test all our patience, stamina, tolerance…. Now, to decide on our dilemma. finally… it’s better to stay out… to enjoy all cultural events and swamy oorvalam etc…

            Now it started pain, could feel the tiredness as we were on foot since last night 9pm… Now it is 4:30 in the morning…. So we went near the temple entrance after getting refreshed at the TTD’s common facility… Gurukal were in a queue to perform their Brahma muhurtha darishnam or some daily chores…. they were telling “please move from here… sab aayega…”… then we left that place. Actually it was raining in the morning and later it was drizzling for more than an hour. The entire floor was wet. We were prepared to take a sleep/nap/rest, as it was informed Mohini Avataram Oorvala to start only by 9:30am. There was no place, even to sit. But I was that much tired, to consider all this things… so found an average place and slept down after spreading my towel.

            Now it is almost 7am, People started coming in. They assembled in places, to get better view of Swamy oorvala and cultural performance. Mohini Avataram Oorvalam crossed our point around 11am…. Actually we were in the East Mada Street… right side of the temple… It was the finishing point of any oorvalam. As we were new to this event, lack of clarity on street structure, procession planning etc. We were to wait till end of the event. To clarify, Swamy oorvala starts from the temple entrance and proceed towards the left…. If we were on the left end of the East Mada Street, could have glimpsed the event much early and could have had our breakfast on time. Oops, it’s not mere about food; it’s about preparing ourselves for the next event. Yes, because of this mistake, we could able to live that place only around 12noon. We were aware that if we continue to stay here, couldn't move out till 11pm. So, 12 hours without proper food, water a tough task for us, me in specific. Although there are 100s of volunteers from Srivari Seva, Scount & Guides along with TTD Staff & Other Security personnel, were in management of crowd. They also ensure uninterrupted free food, water supplies. Because of the intensity of crowd, many would have left out.

Yep, coming back... We were out for food, took a visit to nearby park to relax. These all were out of our miscalculations… When we tried to return back to the Temple Street to glimpse on Garuda Seva (event supposed to be start at 7:30 in the night) all the inlet were closed in spite of crowd. Now, our plan for Garuda Seva was on the hook. Still, we didn’t stop, attempted all possible routes….. Finally, found a way-in. That was a fencing of Car Parking area; people trespassed into that with a security guard’s support.  Now again in a dilemma, will this attempt fetch anything positive, should we attempt, all above few people were taking exit in that route. They were warning us not to attempt it; you cannot enter the temple area. Yes, there was a 10 feet tall wall and one more grilled fencing next to it. Anyhow, crowd mentality drove us further. Successfully we climbed that entire wall and fencing entered the temple area. Actually it was a risky attempt, as already read about accidents at temple fest, wall collapse, portico collapse etc. The wall is 10 feet the either side and one has to walk over it little further to reach the temple area where it is 20 feet deep. So, fortunately everything went good.  

            Now joined the crowd for Garuda Seva, it’s almost 6:30pm. Attempted to talk with people around, none was friendly – primarily because of linguistic barrier.

Continuing experience with People of Kongu belt, recently I was getting closer with many from the region… good to hear their tamil slang, most are caring and social with good sense of humour… etc. Introduced to an Aunt (she resembled like my friend’s amma… in here appearance, talk, expression, thought… approx. she could be around 45-50 years of age) She is from Coimbatore, she started sharing her experience to Brahmotsava celebration (she is a regular visitor of the event– 18 years so far). So, it last like a conversion with co-passenger, nothing into anyone’s personal except about job, studies and place of resident. She was with few other lady companion, all are much older than her. They were staying in a dormitory nearby for past few days, to participate in the event all through.

As I said already, linguistic barrier – often there was tangle between Tamil and Telugu in fight for place, comfort etc. She was attempting to keep Tamil people around, and often made a proud statement on Coimbatore in lighter note. She was giving some eatable to us. She was very tired and wants some rest, she made a request to get her into the place after few minutes of rest. So we let her to sleep for a while in a corner. Now it's the time for Swamy Oorvalam to touch our point, we alerted them. She with her companions prepared the Arathi Thattu (Karpuram, Kalkandu, dry grapes, cashew nuts). When Garuda Vahana procession crossed East mada street, there was an eagle flying at the height of temple gopuram, it took a round flight around all the four mada street. Actually little earlier, she was narrating about this event. The surge of the crowd was heavy at this point; she could not make here formalities/ rituals. She asked us, “Thambi, Swamy ku Arathi kattreengala?” So we accepted it, in a plan of getting that Dry grapes & Cashew nuts at the end. So it got over sweetly, we were about to leave. She was making a statement, “Thambi, Coimbatore varumbothu veetukku vaanga…” and we replied, “Ya, Kandippa Aunt… unga peru?” she said, “Sivakamy”… So we left the place saying, “Good Bye”.

Started our way back … took a semi-sleeper deluxe bus from the foothills of tirupathi around 3:30am and reached home around 5am. Just switched-on my mobile after sharing experience with family and friends-in-neighbors to check missed calls, whatsapp, telegram, facebook.... Let’s back to routine. Now I am writing this as a remembrance.

Before concluding, to talk about the management, well equipped, good planning & operation. Despite of deluge of crowd, the area was kept clean especially to mention about toilets, not with the people cooperation, only by the strenuous effort of cleanliness warrior, housekeeping. There was security frisking at many places, even they snatched away some plastic ornaments, sacred thread of other religious believes. I just noticed it; but don’t know the reason behind it. The kids and minor child were provide with a wrist-tag with father name and mobile number, to ensure easy rescue on any mishap. Lot of money would have been spent on improving facilities and particularly for this event, huge on decoration etc. New EO of TTD, an Andhra Cadre IAS officer who is a non-Telugu, non-south Indian appointed by May 2017. His appointment invited little controversies, but this event’s success could disprove those opposition & stereo-type. 

Bramma’s Magalir Mattum - Movie A Review

Bramma’s Magalir Mattum - Movie

A Review

Good movie indeed, attempted to explore the world of women. In general, the theme of the movie seems to be “freedom – which most women in India been denied off”. Jothika, a documentary film maker – drive the three women out of their daily chores, boredom. In a larger picture, Director’s touch – he have handled minute things with care.

My favorite from the movie, Rani’s (Banupriya) son Karthi got by the paramilitary guards at state border while he was in search of his mother. He along with his two goons was taken to the training campaign; actually that was a women regiment. They were provided with a food parcel. He has been projected as an adamant, male chauvinistic, self-centered, heartless creature from the beginning. So when the food parcel been offered, those two guys in the hungry grabbed it and started eating. He was taking a sarcastic look, as he found a long hair in the food. He makes a comment “Ithu yeppadi sapdurathu?” (How to eat this?) to the chief, who is a woman. She steps forward and made him to standup. She slapped him hard and says, “unaiyella, sapatla mudi irruntha yeduthu pottu sapdanum solli valakkula…” (You have not been taught to have food after taking away hair, if it comes by mistake)… “pombalainga irrukka veetla saptla mudivizharathu sagacham…. Ithu unn veeda irruntha yenna panniruppa…” in the dim-colour video goes (imagination) as if himself in house throwing away the food plate….. She continues “ sapattu thattu paranthirukkumla!!”. For me, this is the core of the movie; actually it’s the turning point too…. It goes with my belief too “Women, has the potential to change the society”. Some could be taught in Tamil, some in Telugu, some in the language of Love whereas people like Karthi need different language as she did. 

Other favorite dialogues “ Naanum intha ulagathula thaan irrukken (sarcasm – as they were often unnoticed)” and Suder (Madhavan in cameo) says “yentha veetla aangal samaikuraangalo anga kuperen kupura paduthuta pomatten solvanaam… pethavalukku samaichu kudutha vazhakaikku appuram sorgam… katunavalukku samaichu kudutha vazhumbothe sorgam…”

Dialogue in the Promo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCC0gq34Gmw

Director played a balance between Women breaking the shell within and Men to step into the domain of women to explore their world of suffering. I.e. Subu (saranya) pursuing her passion as a beautician despite of personal problems, making three women to go on week-long trip, several attempts by the three at college days – playing a trick to stop marriage, out for movie,  and about the second part Movie starts with a rage of cry about the domestic chores, unrecognized unrewarded contribution of housewives, (reiterated and better presented when Jyothika ask Rani to keep Velaikari – she replies “ appo naan yaaru… naan than Chief velaikari of this house” shows how often we  treat women as a servant or domestic maid) , Subu’s husband who is an alcoholic fulltime after office (namma oorla rasam yeduthu pora Jam bottle’la TASMAC poi sarakku yeduthu varum aalu) – fail in taking care of his mother even for three days…. Child bearing pain of Karthi’s wife, Phone conversation with the childhood friends which is hardly possible for many women who lost themselves in the family….

Subtle issues have been discussed in the lighter tone, better way of avoiding any controversy as often faced by this sort of movies. (Issue 1). Modern Educated Women often argue “why female should bear the child, why child-rearing sole responsibility of women?” – Gomatha (Urvashi) replies to Jyothika in a funny tone “It’s a problem of you and your husband… Unnala mudiyalana avanaiyaachu pethukka sollu” (Issue 2) Women are emotional prisoners – “why you are like… Neenga illana avanga sapda mattanga, Neenga illana avanga thoonga mattanga…. Better live your life…. Modern Liberal thoughts…. Which intend to make human more self-centered, greedy, ambitious” and (Issue 3) is “kind of live-in relationship – while discussing on an easiest divorce provision among particular tribal community  - if the couple had a child, who will be responsible on divorce?”…. Though these issues not dealt in detail… sure would give an insight to those who has this kind of quest…..

Jyothika often quote Marriage as a “Mayajala jail – which trap woman’s dream”… she also points out in a other occasion, the real freedom of women is not about walking alone at midnight with full ornaments; it’s about marrying the man of her choice and doing what she loves.

Most of the patriarchal mindsets were not created by men, indeed actually by women themselves. What people often quotes as TABOO, are upheld by women so strongly. They grow children; future generation could be directed as they wish. Mothers want her child to grow as a typical man (completely dominating) and restrict the girl child in all spheres (education, social interaction, career, choice of life… etc.)

Yes… when I saw the trailer and poster of this movie… I was feeling like… this movie would be a misleading precedence “ if you go by the character of Prabha (Jyothika), you could be good, liberated, independent, happy women”. But it doesn’t make such remark atleast to some extend…. Tries to touch the dilemmas of a transition society – previous generation (traditional values, social norms, emotion, and love) and present generation (passion, career, modern ideas, liberal thoughts, and even some misconceptions) – the movie, all it attempted is to make a fine balance between the two.

Some things could have been avoided…. though it has been handled uncontroversial… Director want to make a point about HONOUR KILLING directly & indirectly – so he preferred to name those love couple as Sankar & Kausalya… and also picturized the market attack scene … fortunately there was Jyothika at the spot to rescue Sankar, but reality was different. Periyar and DK identity were just passing reference, could not have made much impact.

Ps. Jyothika, earlier i dunnt like much…. But in this new avatar… lovely …. Yeppa I mean, she performed like SURYA…..

Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ZFqH0Xy0wc

Also read, my previous write-up if time permits

http://karthikmalmarugan.blogspot.in/2017/06/women-empowerment-and-price-tag-for.html  

Please do comment….

Women Empowerment and Price tag for unpaid domestic work

Women Empowerment and Price tag for unpaid domestic work

Empowerment in the arena of Political, Economic, Social….

Understanding ENTITLEMENT and EMPOWERMENT – Providing opportunity to access essential needs food, shelter, education is mere ENTITLEMENT… whereas EMPOWERMENT expands beyond horizon. It cannot be provided or received. It’s like clapping the hand, two way process… Will they take that step? Watch this to understand the context….

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HIfH5yia2Qc

What has been taken so far?

1. FOOD SECURITY – food grain, essential goods – mere entitlement – life supporting – just to survive; just add EDUCATION (BBBP), HEALTH CARE FACILITIES…
2. EMPLOYMENT GUARANTEE – MGNREGA – No intention to improve the status of Women;
3. SELF HELP GROUP – ECONOMIC EMPOWERMENT – successful in few areas – delivered very few entrepreneurs and cottage industries;
4. POLITICAL REPRESENTATION – bought many women centric issues to the light -50% in Local Government and mere 10% in PARLIAMENT – demand for women reservation goes endless;
5. LAWS to protect from IN-LAWS – DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ACT and DOWRY PROHIBITION ACT (recent reality show from a TV channel projected many girls themselves claim huge SRIDHANA from the parents); What we need is not CHANGE IN LEGAL SET…. Real need is CHANGE IN MIND SET;
6. Measure to tackle Problems outside the home – SOCIETAL PRESSURE, PREJUDICE, WORKPLACE HARRASSMENT…. STALKING, VOYEURISM…….

Still…

For anything fallen out of the sky, people started blaming it to because of PATRIARCHAL MINDSET…. Is that a conspiracy made by the male community of this country (at least for our sake not going in the global context) or any deception by the RELIGIOUS PHILOSOPHIES… or whether it happened over the night? Many centuries crossed… We ended up creating a society of this kind… now our level of literacy has termed it as PATRIARCHY…. All we need is to undo the mistakes… taking it in the right direction… it cannot happen over the night…. Women community has to take that step…. Not be demanding or expressing their grief… if the EGG is broken from outside LIFE ENDS… it should be broken from INSIDE…. It gives a new life…

Firstly, is religion has anything to do?

If so why it describe GOD OF EDUCATION as wife of CREATOR, GOD OF WEALTH as wife of PROTECTOR, GOD OF VALOUR as wife of DESTROYER…. Without the former later would be impotent. Creation without knowledge, Defence without wealth, Destruction without valour Impossible. So blaming the RELGION for the SOCIAL MISHAP could not be a solution.

Secondly, Promoting Individualism?

On the lines of liberal societies, now we can see several ideas taking foot in our country – My choice, friends with benefit, living together. The ideas making the people FREE OF COMMITMENT, which is purely obnoxious to our society, increasing number of ORPHANAGE & OLD AGE HOME has its root cause here. Freaking out couldn’t be one’s choice… Contributing positively to the societies progress demand one to understand the twist and turns of its making… untangling the knot not an easy task… it demand a proper understanding of the same….

Thirdly, Poor understanding of EQUALITY, PARITY..

Rights Vs Duty – To drink, to roam, to imitate like the man which been copied from the western and destructing our health, society & economy…  Uniqueness of women withstanding the bad circumstance and raising up good human being and their by righteous society;

Want to be Respected or Liberated - Equality with men – Siraiyai vittu veliye vandhaai kiliye, siragadikkava alla seetedukkava? (Tamizh kavidhai)

Let us understand the grand global design to destroy our culture – whereby our spending is increased, consumerism is increased, materialism is increased. We have to be aware of, and beware of such designs.  We should try to understand Indian womanhood in its essence – in its real sense.

Finally, Materialist aspiration making us to evade our duty, which is disastrous to mankind… we should not forget that very materialist aspiration created a greedy society… left the other living being no place to survive… pushed the nature at the verge of destruction…

Guess you remember the STOCHASTIC THEORY?

Read it here: http://www.storydose.com/2014/02/the-pregnant-deer-inspirational-story.html

The Same materialist aspiration and the idea of projecting MONETARY RETURN as a higher value/ measuring grade pushed the global community to talk about PRICE TAGGING UNPAID DOMESTIC WORK…

If you thing the food prepared by your mom has mere cooking ingredient and salt then you can fix a price…. What is the MONETARY VALUE for LOVE, AFFECTION, DEDICATION, and SACRIFICE….

Man managed finance - Material needs.  Woman managed minds – Emotional needs.

A family can survive a bad father, not a bad mother.

You might ask WHY PUTTING SOLE BLAME ON US? The potential is within you… Men are a perverted being… it is nature’s mistake… Women have immense potential to keep him on track…. 40 weeks of PATEINCE, PAIN OF BEARING CHILD, CHILD REARING (though could be shared by MALE COUNTER PART in the modern society… as his work location is not so far)

Also go through the proposal of ILO

http://www.ilo.org/wcmsp5/groups/public/@ed_protect/@protrav/@travail/documents/publication/wcms_156071.pdf

Demerits of price tagging unpaid domestic works:

1. Changing the boundless DUTY to Wage employment would denigrate family values (ending the principle of NON RECIPROCITY)
2. It would further degrade the auspicious marriage alliance of our society, if the caring household task been valued on the lines of waged domestic labour.
3. Such legal protection would increase litigation similar to divorce cases.
4. Creating a Right based society will loss being RIGHTEOUS. Already we are trying out a legal provision to mandate OLDAGE CARE by their offspring.
5. Certain values has not equivalent in the monetary basis.

Remembering very true lines from a Tamil movie….

விண்ணைப் படைத்தான், மண்ணைப் படைத்தான்,

காற்றும், மழையும், ஒளியும் படைத்தான்

பூமிக்கு அதனால் நிம்மதி இல்லை, பூமிக்கு அதனால் நிம்மதி இல்லை

சாமி தவித்தான், தாயைப் படைத்தான்

(God himself created women as a panacea for the entire problem out there in the world)

நீர் நினைத்தால், பெண் நினைத்தால், கரைகள் யாவும் கரைந்து போகக் கூடும்.

Women a real harbinger of change… (Would like to recall the dialogue by Nayanthara from Thani Oruvan movie… உன்னோட பலமே உன் பொருமை தான்… அதையே இழந்துட்டு நிக்குறியே!!!)

Women is the visible Manifestation of God – Swami Vivekananda  (Vali thaangum Valimai)

Also watch these short films & documentaries (generate your opinion for these)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BaU_25zKmYE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KtPv7IEhWRA